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30 Skills Every Woman Should Have Before Turning 30

I saw this on Frisky, and then Ponikuta‘s site, and I thought since I will be turning 30 in just under two years, I reckon I’d give this one a go.

Here is a list of skills a woman should have mastered by the time she turns 30. The ones in bold are the ones I’ve done, including my comments in italics.

1. Hard boil an egg
2. Diplomatically tell Mom to butt-out (it wasn’t easy, but it had to be done)
3. Ace a job interview
4. Ask a man out (it’s not as difficult as it looks)
5. Send a thoughtful thank you note
6. Listen to a friend in need
7. Ask for help
8. Effectively end an unhealthy relationship (romantic or platonic in nature)
9. Beautifully wrap a gift
10. Say “no” gracefully
11. Whip up a great dinner with the five items in her fridge (Five years ago, I would have said “Are you out of your freakin’ mind?!” Now, not so bad :p)
12. Forget pleasing him, by 30 a woman should be able to tell her man exactly how to please her (Learned this pretty early ;) )
13. Sew a button
14. Mix a kick-ass cocktail
15. Take off her bra without removing her shirt (I studied in an all-girls school for 11 years. I learned that as soon as I started wearing one)
16. Apply lip gloss in the dark (now this, I can’t do. I can’t even apply colour-less lip balm properly!)
17. Balance her checkbook
18. Create a budget (have to, now that I’m married. Back then, I wasn’t so consistent)
19. Find the best deal (I’m Chinese. I’m all for a good bargain :p)
20. Negotiate a salary and/or pay raise
21. Read a map (give me a satellite navigator anytime)
22. Hail a cab
23. Say something in French just for the hell of it (I can say “Yes”, “No”, “Please”, “Excuse me” and “I love you”. Does that count?)
24. Apologize when she’s wrong
25. Dress for her body type
26. Change a flat (or know whom to call to come change it)
27. Spot a fake (handbag, diamond, potential friend…)
28. Feign interest
29. Know what to tip on a $25 dinner bill
30. Hold a baby (Hey, someone you know is bound to have one sooner or later)

19 out of 30. Guess I have to work on the other 11 in the next two years. Hopefully by then, I’d be able to know how to hold a baby. And read a map. And apply lip gloss in the dark. And everything else.

Anyone of you over 30 could do all these yet? Help me out here, eh?

For the Love of Books

When Paris tagged me on a meme about books, it was something that I gladly jumped upon, because the love of reading is something very close to my heart.

Do you remember how you developed a love for reading?

My parents bought me my very first Enid Blyton story book on my seventh birthday, and I was hooked. I can’t recall the exact title of the book; I think it was the Orange Story Book. Before then, I’ve never read anything by Enid Blyton. I had those very thin fairy tale books, like The Magic Porridge Pot and Rumpelstiltskin, but got over those because I finished reading them too quickly. I loved that book, and that also started the habit of re-reading story books, because I read that book over and over, until the hard cover fell off. It was then that I fell in love with reading.

My dad doesn’t believe in buying me toys; he thought those were a waste of money (unless it’s LEGO). But he never said no when I wanted to buy a book. Better yet if the books were encyclopedias. Imagine his shock when I asked him to buy me a book by Amanda Quick called “Seduction” when I was 15.

“Why on earth are you reading about seduction haaaa???!!!”

He still got me that book in the end. It was rubbish, but it still holds fond memories of that day with my father.

What are some books you read as a child?

Books by Enid Blyton were a godsend. I’ve read almost all of her books (there were a few Famous Five books which I missed). I loved her Secret Island series, and even more, the school stories. I wanted to be Darrell from Malory Towers who studied at a boarding school and had all sorts of crazy adventures. When I was 11, I was introduced to Sweet Valley Twins and Sweet Valley High when I was 12. I loved those books (I’m not ashamed to admit it now). I remembered begging my mum to get Sweet Valley Twins books for me for my 12th birthday, and she did. I remembered being naughty once, and she took those books away from me. I cried for days. When I was 13, I moved on to Judith Mcnaught, Barbara Cartland and Georgette Heyer. What a huge jump, huh?

Upper Bookshelves

What is your favourite genre?

I don’t exactly have a favourite genre, because I read anything that piques my interest. Romance, thrillers, chick lit, etc. Although it is easier to read chick lit these days. I feel that you don’t need to use so much of your brain then :p I really enjoy thrillers too. Sidney Sheldon, Tess Gerritson and Ben Elton are a few of my favourite authors in that genre.

I also have my own genre of books – “Books That Make Me Cry” and “Books That Make Me Smile When I Reach The End”. I have a lot of those. Cecelia Ahern’s PS I Love You and Where Rainbow’s End would fit right into those categories.

Do you have a favourite novel?

I don’t have a specific favourite novel, but I simply adore any book by Sophie Kinsella. I have all her books.

Where do you usually read?

In bed. Thus the sky-rocketing power of my glasses.

When do you usually read?

At night before I sleep. I tend to sleep better after reading a chapter or two of anything. Oh, the loo too. I think a book’s read at its best on the throne :P

Do you usually have more than one book you are reading at a time?

This was a habit which I would not have condoned years ago, but now, yeah, I do have more than a book which I’d be reading at a time. When something else sparks my curiosity, I’d delve into it. I have several books with bookmarks still in them because I haven’t even finished reading them yet.

Do you read nonfiction in a different way or place than you read fiction?

In a way, I do. When reading fiction, I tend to glance over some words, because you get the gist of the story anyway. In non-fiction books, especially autobiographies, I read into the words more. This also means that I take a lot longer to finish a non-fiction book compared to fiction novels.

Do you buy most of the books you read, or borrow them, or check them out of the library?

I mostly buy my books. I’m utterly addicted to the smell of new books (hence my immense attraction to Borders), and love bringing one home and introducing it to my shelf. I also borrow books from the library, especially the thick and heavy ones, like reference books, cookbooks, etc. Mostly the ones which are too expensive for me to buy.

Do you keep most of the books you buy? If not, what do you do with them?

I keep them. My books are like treasures to me. I have enough to start my own library. For those books who, unfortunately, get the chop (and it breaks my heart to have to do so), I donate them to charity shops.

Lower Bookshelves

If you have children, what are some of the favorite books you have shared with them? Were they some of the same ones you read as a child?

Definitely Enid Blyton books. I kept a lot of them in good condition, in a dark and cool place, so that should last for quite a while. None of ‘em Harry Potter crap. I like the Harry Potter books, don’t get me wrong, and I think they make great reading. But I want my children to also experience the wonderful world Enid Blyton’s books can bring one to. Not just wizarding stuff. It’s sad that a lot of bookstores do not even sell Enid Blyton books anymore. The Borders bookstore in Queensbay Mall, Penang, has only one side of a small shelf with Enid Blyton books. It’s sad, really.

What are you reading now?

Air Kisses by Zoe Foster.

Do you keep a TBR (to be read) list?

Not really, unless it’s a book that I’m waiting to be published.

What’s next?

I just bought Salem Falls by Jodi Picoult (another excellent author) over the weekend. Can’t wait to delve into that one.

What books would you like to reread?

I can’t remember the number of times I’ve re-read the Shopaholic series by Sophie Kinsella. Tim finds me very odd on that one, because I can still laugh over the same jokes I’ve read over and over. There’s also this book which I read many times over, which is Of Comb, Powder and Rouge by Yeap Joo Kim. Excellent book, which never fails to make me cry.

Who are your favourite authors?

All those that I mentioned in the questions before this one :)

What are your thoughts on reading?
Rinnah
Kamigoroshi
Kimmy
Constant Drama

7 Random Things About Me

Lucky SevenThis is an overdue meme which was tagged by the very man who hardly does memes himself, Kamigoroshi. I knew I had to reciprocate something so rare. It took me a while to search these seven random things about myself. It’s not something deep nor exactly soul-searching, but it might give you another look into who I am. Here they are, in no particular order:

  1. I have a tendency to talk to myself. It’s a childhood habit I never outgrew. I would imagine myself as another person, and actually talk aloud to myself as a third person. I stopped talking aloud to myself years ago, but I still run conversations in third person in my head before doing anything. And when I did something I shouldn’t have, or didn’t do something I should have, after it’s over, I’d run the conversation in my head as to what I should or should not have said. Sometimes I wonder if I’m schizophrenic.
  2. I’m quite a paranoid person. No, I’m not talking about aliens or other beings outside of Earth. I’m wary of my surroundings, of the people around me. I’d rather walk the extra two block with lights on, than half a block with little light. I’m not saying that this guarantees that I’ll be safe all the time. The sixth sense in me tells me that it’s better to be safe than sorry.
  3. I’m a worrywart. It comes with being paranoid. I get scared of things quite often. I worry that something will happen if we take that risk which I’d deem unnecessary. It’s a wonder my blood pressure doesn’t hit the roof at times.
  4. I’m terribly fickle-minded. It’s difficult for me to stick to something I’d like for long. I tend to move on to something else very quickly. It’s not a trait I’m proud of.
  5. For a fickle person, I’m incredibly loyal when it comes to food. If it’s a dish I like, I can have it for many consecutive meals and not get sick. Once, I had steamed tofu with a bit of meat and mushrooms on it for dinner, cooked the same way, for an entire week. Just because I liked it. And still do. I can watch a show I like over and over again and not get bored. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched the entire seasons of How I Met Your Mother, Will and Grace, House, etc. Up to the point where I can recite almost every line on the show. Even Tim is sick of hearing sitcom laughter from the computer :p
  6. I used to suffer from trichotillomania. It’s an obsessive-compulsive disorder where I’d yank out my hair when I was stressed out. It got so bad, that to a point, I had obvious bald patches at the sides of my head (where the sideburns would be), and you’d see tufts of grass-like hairs on the top of my head, because that’s where new hair was growing (I pulled a lot out). I don’t do it anymore though. I transferred that OCD-ness to something else – twisting tissue or the corners of pillows with my thumb and index finger.
  7. I tend to be protective of people shorter and/or smaller-sized than I am. I don’t know why. It’s not discriminatory; it’s just one of those things coded in my genes or something. It’s instinctive.

I’m not going to tag anyone for today, but if you would like to do the meme, by all means go ahead. I’d love to read that seven things about you.